Sunday, 24 January 2016

2015 and Realizations

I know it's already been three weeks since 2016 started but it's better late than sorry, right? I used to have New Year's resolutions every year and  I always believe that we always need to move forward. But I realized sometimes I forgot to reflect things from the past year.  2015 has flown so fast and it feels like everything happened in a blink of an eye. I wish I was able to document everything in writing but I no longer write in my journal. I was able to take some snaps in my instagram  and I have loads of photos stored in my laptop taken from last year but I know it isn't enough.

2015 has been a challenging year. I've met a lot of people and though I made new friends, I also lost some along the way. I used to fear losing friends but as I grew older I realized that weeding 'friends' is ok rather  than keep them (and  let them stab you behind your back). It hurts that those people I considered my 'friends' are just there lurking and waiting in the shadows. I was loyal to a fault and I trust easily  but I wish I was quick enough to realize who are real and for keeps. I am glad I still have few ones who will stick 'til the very end. Sometimes I think that it's better to have a small circle of real friends. I've learned but that doesn't mean that I am totally closing my door to other people. After all the world is created to make friends. I just need to be more careful. Choosing the right people to trust is the hardest lesson I've learned from 2015.

I used to depend my happiness on someone and when he left I was totally distraught. I wasn't totally ready and I thought that everything's okay until I realized that I'm crying myself at night for days.  I became depressed. It's a pity and I'm being too selfish. I was totally lost but then I have my friends who helped me get through all of these insecurities. It makes me understand that happiness relies on yourself AND your choices and not on other people.  Be your own person and don't let other people's opinions define you. I hope this one goes the same with other people especially that we currently live in a world of social media. And social media if not used with caution, is a total poison (wow, that rhymes!).

Sometimes, we won't be able to realize the importance of a person or a situation unless we were able to lose that someone. New Year's Eve and Holy Week family reunions used to be my favorite time of the year.  But I began to detest attending a few years ago. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and I always respect them. But sometimes they ask a LOT of questions. I know it's normal for them to ask but comparing me to my cousins and classmates who are already married WITH kids is not ok. It's kinda upsetting. So I started making excuses why I can't attend. My extended family is big so they won't notice my absence. But last year, my father's eldest brother passed away. It made me realize that we need to spend more time with our loved ones while they are still alive and not wait for a funeral for a family reunion. It made me more appreciative of the efforts that my parents do for me and my brothers when we were at home. But of course we still can't avoid nosy relatives. I just need to keep in mind that the reason they ask is because they want to know more about me (hopefully) or they want to engage in a conversation. Just be MORE patient and don't forget that we still need to respect them no matter what. Family is still family.

I know there are still a lot of things to learn and the best lessons in life are taught  based on our own experiences. This 2016, I will try to avoid the negativity and I will focus on the things that make me happy. I will be more understanding and patient especially to my friends and family. I am forever thankful that I have them in my life. They are always there for me and I will do the same for them. As for my "eat healthy" NY resolution (which is always a failure since I can't give up chocolates and cake), I won't be hard on myself this year. Chocolates make me happy so I won't give it up. But in exchange I'll eat more fruits and veggies and lessen my soda intake. I will consider 2016 as a new beginning. A clean slate of my life and I am hoping that I'll be more adventurous this year.

Cheers to 2016 and more chocolates please! =)

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Thursday, 3 December 2015

Things I've Learned From My Previous Relationship

It was my last year in high school, weeks before my graduation to be precise, when I had my first boyfriend.  I thought everything is perfect but I woke up one day and realized that I am no longer that dreamy-eyed high school girl who fell in love with her crush. Yes, it was me. I was the b*tch of that relationship. I have outgrown my boyfriend. I was young and it's all puppy love but I've learned a lot from that experience. I rarely talk about it since it is a very sensitive subject for me. Well let's just say that the topic is quite personal. It's like opening up an old wound or scar... Don't get me wrong. I've already moved on, sooner than I've expected. But given the chance to look back and turn back time, here are things I would advise to my younger self regarding relationship matters. I decided to divide it into three parts: Before, During, and After (the relationship).
Don't hurry yourself. If your friends are getting into relationships and you're not, it doesn't mean that you are not "IN" and you need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend as well. Savor every moment of your 'singleness' . Don't be afraid that you'll get teased just because you don't have a boyfriend yet. I know it's peer pressure but they are not the one who will be handling your life. You have to ask yourself whether you're ready or not. Because that time, I know I'm not ready yet and I just want to prove to my friends that I can have him as my boyfriend. So immature. You're young but don't waste your time proving yourself to other people. Loosen up! 

I've said a million times over that communication is  one of the key if you want to make your relationship work. You need to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend if something's going on. There might be some misunderstandings but you NEED to voice out your opinion and what's on your mind. He or she might disagree or worse get angry but it's better than keeping it to yourself. Keeping your silence isn't good. It'll pile up until you realize that it's beginning to suffocate you. It's unhealthy. Have the guts and be firm to tell  your boyfriend that he needs to talk to you first before he tell on you. You will lose the respect you have to your boyfriend as well as the one you have for yourself  if you let him let other people meddle with your relationship and let them captain the boat. It's not bad if both of you seek advice from other people but letting them control you, is totally NOT OK.   

Breathe. Getting out of relationship is hard. Most specially if it's a long one. You have to think that life needs to go on. No need to look back and regret that you have broken up with him. Never regret leaving a situation that no longer makes you happy. Yes, I know that your mind was all blur during the first months but you need to think  of the reason why you got yourself out of that relationship. Go out and make up with your friends and enjoy your life. It's not all "How-will-I-survive-without-him?" Soon, you'll realize that life has a lot of things to offer. You will meet new people and you will cherish them.

I'm not a pro when it comes to relationship thingy, I just based all my advice to my younger self  on what I've experienced. I am not bad-mouthing my ex or anything like that. I am not playing the blame game. Both of us have our own shortcomings and we were both young when it all happened. I never regret meeting him. It's all part of the experience. I've learned my lesson and I've made sure not to make the same mistakes again.

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Tuesday, 13 October 2015

The Glam Guide By Fleur De Force Book Review

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Fleur De Force is one of my favorite Youtuber. So when she announced that she'll be releasing The Glam Guide, I was beyond ecstatic! The only problem is, it's so hard to get hold of the book here in the Philippines! And luckily for me, it was available when I checked it from National Bookstore on my birthday. You can only imagine my happiness!!!

The Glam Guide brims with tips and advice for every girls who looks forward in looking chic and stylish. From make-up, to fashion, travel, you name it! I am not the type of girl who wears full make up on a daily basis but the world of make-up and cosmetics fascinate me.  That's why I'm glad when she discussed about make up must-haves, the perfect ways on how to choose the correct foundation and the right make-up brush to use. Fleur also tackles about the perfect shade of eye shadow to use to match your eye color. But of course let's not forget the topic about skin care and the chemicals and parabens to avoid when choosing your skin products and cosmetics.

I love that she emphasized to stick with classic pieces when it comes to your wardrobe essentials. And I totally agree with her when she mentioned to take your time when choosing the perfect pair jeans.  I am  salesperson's nightmare when it comes to jeans but you know, every girl needs to get the perfect fit!

But most importantly I love how she discussed about body image, self confidence and being positive. I strongly agree with her. I believe that everything will follow if you're confident about yourself. I used to compare myself with other people and it is frustrating. I realized that other people's success shouldn't be the yardstick of my own. It's my life anyway. Don't let other people's opinion define yours.

I won't get tired of buying these types of books. I bought my copy from National Bookstore and hopefully it is still available. It costs P799.00. The pages are filled with nicely drawn illustrations and photos and the topics are properly organized.  I highly recommend The Glam Guide if you're looking for some tips and advice on how to be perfectly chic. And I assure you, you won't regret buying it!

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Saturday, 10 October 2015

3D Nail Stickers From Girl Stuff!!!

I've been M.I.A. these past few months and I know it's too cliche if I tell you I'm busy. I feel a bit guilty since I consider this little space in the interweb my baby (BAE!) but I'm neglecting it in the past few months. My blogging notebook brims with ideas to post but I am a bit demotivated to post it all. Anyway, I decided to resurrect myself and think of the things that make me happy: chocolate, lipstick and anything nail related. And you know how I love nail art!

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I recently purchased these 3D nail decals or nail stickers from Girl Stuff. Each case costs only P80, not bad for these super duper chic nail decals. They are sorted based on a theme: fruits, butterflies, sweets, florals and gem studs! It's so cute!!! These are perfect accent to your regular nail polish and it can give an oomp!!! to your nail art creations! 

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Glam Guide by FleurDeForce at the background!

These babies are easy to apply. You can use nail glue but if it's not available, you can use your regular white glue like Elmer's but make sure that the glue is a bit tacky before application. You can also try using your clear nail polish. These nail decals are delicate so don't forget to use tweezers! 

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The possibilities are endless with these nail stickers. I think it's a must-have for every nail art fanatic. There's no need for you to be a nail expert in order to use it. In fact it can make you look like one. I am looking forward in using all of these. And will I definitely repurchase? Definitely YES!!!!!

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